We need professional help

I'm so tired of handling Xinyi. We seriously need professional help or else i think Xinyi will go into the stage where she will start to develop into autistic. She is scared of everything, scared to pee, scared to poo, scared to brush her teeth, scared to take shower, scared to wash the hair, scared to play at the playground, scared of lizard, butterfly and whole lots more. Scared this scared that. When i said scared, she is really scared. ONce i mention the word take shower, or brush the teeth, or go shhh shh, go da bian, she will start to cry already and keep shaking her hand, no no no. She will keep on telling us, no shower ar, no wash hair ar, no blah blah blah.. and keep on crying with big tears rolling down her cheeks, shivering in fear..haiiii. I just don't know how to handle this kind of situation. Everyday the list of what she scared will always go longer and longer and longer. I think she start to not able to go through her life normally already cos the normal thing like taking shower, washing her hair, brushing her teeth, pee , poo already become something torturing for her.
. I just told hub, we have to bring her to see psychiatric or else she will definitely become an autism kid. We have to seek professional help to give us some method on how to resolve this and correct this and know what we have done wrong.
I'm such a failure. Kid that staying home with mum is usually a healthy and confident kid. But my girl, go opposite. There must be something that i did wrong until she become like this.